SEB’S IOS
Here’s a look into my personal iOS. You can find more about the powerful thought exercise here.
Vision/Purpose/North Star: Create spaces for full self-expression and play #Recess
Mission: Performance Optimization for the Top 1% - support leaders and teams move through the mess by connecting to their essential greatness.
Essence:
Authenticity
Passion
Catalyst
Joy
Love
Identities I hold:
Athlete
Leader
Artist/Creator
Human
Roles I hold:
Leader
Coach
Facilitator
Consultant
Son/grandson
Brother
Teammate
Powerful Contexts/Perspectives/Lens to see the world
Presidential - excellence always and everywhere
Jack Sparrow - go f*** s*** up lol
Surrender - let it be
Mad scientist - everything is an experiment
Values:
EXCELLENCE-High water raises all boats. We promise to cultivate an environment that calls forth the best of every person and opportunity and raises the collective standard.
AUTHENTICITY-We create spaces for full self-expression, real conversation, and vulnerable realizations in service of empowering choice.
INTEGRITY-We believe that the best results come when our intentions, speaking, and actions are in alignment.
RELATIONSHIPS-We are committed to deeply understanding our clients and helping them achieve what is most important to them
FUN-We believe that our greatest wins happen as a consequence of levity and play.
IMPACT-In redefining what is possible, we support our clients in making a significant and lasting difference in their teams, organizations, and communities.
Questions to ask often:
What is leadership to me?
What is coaching to me?
What is a team to me?
What is success to me?
Self-Challenges:
Be excellence all the time, no matter what
Trust what I see and never step over what I see. Especially if it’s uncomfortable.
Survival Mechanism - my default or automatic operating system:
Stoic Superman - hero complex, “its my job to fix”
Idealistic fraud - I see gaps everywhere. It shows up as what should be/could be. This is the intense level of excellence. Misalignment or misperception of character creates major stress (#fraud)
Unproductive Workaholic - use work as an out/to numb
Decision making orientations:
Is this an 8, 9, or 10? Anything less, it’s a hard no.
Am I called to this? Am I called for this?
What does your gut say? What has you trusting/not trusting it?
Glad I did or didn’t?
Why I say Yes:
Do I want to? Or am I trying to please/fulfill others?
Time - do I have the time?
Fun
Business Conditions of Success
photo shot at Aro Ha
Principles - personal preset rules or ways of being (more here)
Love first
Lead always: Be the owner
Show up
Show out - Ball hard
Life’s too short. Do it now.
Practice Integration. Let your front match your back.
Jump for joy
Point and run: Express gratitude
Be you
Get messy
Ensure safety, encourage Discomfort
Be Unreasonable
Embrace Stillness + Silence
Do it big: live in possibility
Honor experiences
Hold space. Be compassion.
Go one step further
Trust the arc of the long game
Make Waves - Be bold
Operate in the Poles
Own the Different
If it scares you, do it now
Finish what you start
Be direct. Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind.
Be unattached.
Be ungettable.
Keep it simple. Everyone can do complex.
Chop wood, carry water
Business Principles
Yesterday’s price is not today’s price
The difference between good and great is consistency.
Bring value
Play the long game
Relationships Over Everything
Yesterday’s price is not today’s price. And your last price becomes your new price - Drake + Thug
You are always serving/coaching. Even though people aren’t yet your clients.
Coaching principles:
Slow down
Lean back
Bounce
BOLD - Say the thing that will get you fired
Strengths Inventory: Why would I be enrolled in me?
Things I have in any room. They are malleable and can be deployed across any situation and context. My fundamentals.
Standard of excellence -: the FLOOR is excellence and professionalism, I am exceptional at what I put my mind too
Power of Polarities - I see possibility everywhere. I can also empathetically connect to different perspective. I can see 360, especially when prompted.
Seeing the strengths, greatness, and latent talent in others - it’s maximizer + significance, it’s also idealistic fraud
Emotional forecasting - human reactions at any scale make sense
Soar - I see the best in people, and I see potential
Allow people to dream bigger. Represent possibility
Team-orientation: I automatically come from team/in service of someone else. No need to filter. Teams just makes sense.
Elevation: I raise all boats and make any space better
High integrity and responsibility
Effective: I get shit done. Mission focused and able to move groups forward.
Arranger: I see and can optimize Systems thinking
Understanding organizational contexts
Humor + Joy: I can jump from humor to work in a second. It’s like walking over the line.
I redesign the system to solve multiple problems simultaneously. I evolve organizational systems until they produce envisioned results. I see the integration between all parts of the system.
Grounded leadership - it’s leadership connected to my power. It allows me to slow down and speak from what feels like near fact.
StrengthsFinder:
Arranger
Responsibility
Significance
Communication
Activator
Maximizer
Strategic
Relator
Self-Assurance
Individualization
Things that piss me off:
When mom stacks the list and doesn’t tell me everything at once
Not explaining the why or vision. I like to operate with a creative space.
Too long winded
Using an anxious/stress-inducing tone for something little
People that don’t own their greatness
Playing victim
Definitions that Matter:
Leadership is/a leader is…
To create what doesn’t yet exist or make better what does - Rodney Mueller
A leader is anyone at any level who takes responsibility for finding the potential in people and processes and has the courage to develop that potential - Brene Brown
Masculinity/to be a man…
Strength and Love; Power and light
Lives in alignment with values and vision
Someone who is able to identify their needs and get them met
If we were strangers, what would your care instructions say?
Make fantasy and marvel references often
Treat with humor. It aint that serious.
Push a bit, but he’s got the rest.
Communicate transparently. Roundabout takes too long and he aint got time for that… or you in that case.
What I spend money on:
Health - insurance, fitness classes
Self Development - courses, masterminds, degrees, further education, etc.
Core Technology - the stuff I use everyday
Experiences - live baby! YOLO (kinda tho)
Speed/Buying back time - will it make me/my business faster? Does it cut down travel time?
Drivers - What moves me?
RAPPORT - connecting with others and building comfortable relationships
COMMERCIAL (MISSION) FOCUS - maximizing organizational profitability; driving business success
LEGACY - accomplishing something that lasts and is honored; having a long-term impact COURAGE - asserting and defending one's position; saying what needs to be said
HONESTY - telling the truth; maintaining one's own personal integrity and truthfulness
Notice these patterns/things to watch out for:
Overworking
Scarcity mindset
“I need to…”
“I should”
Automatic yes without checking in on values or vision
Can’t hear acknowledgement
Superman - stoic and unable to be with heart
Too many people - spending too much time tending to others needs and trading silence/time with self
Weekly challenges
love yourself excessively. Live unreasonably this week.
Fail everyday.
Lead with as few words as possible.
Slow down enough to hear silence.
Listen for and count everything you hear
